This is basically the onset of depression. When you stop loving yourself and putting yourself first. You have to learn to love yourself or you can never love anyone else. You have to realise that you are enough. People will come in and out of your life, the only person that is guaranteed to be with you until the end is you.
So how do you love yourself? That is the million dollar question. You need to take care of yourself, make the effort to look after your body with diet and exercise. Easy for me to say after eating a sausage roll, Belgium bun and a ginger bun for my breakfast (thank you Lynn). Seriously though, its easy to go for the comfort food when you are feeling low, it makes you feel good for a short while, but long term you need balance.
Look after you skin, stay hydrated. Get outside if the weather is good. Make sure you get enough sleep. Dress smartly (not that I do this time of year).
The single most important thing is how you talk to yourself, don’t beat yourself up. Start telling yourself that you are good enough, you are loved. This takes a while to get used to if you have spent years of putting yourself down. I have always thought of myself as annoying, irritating and not part of anything. Im slowly starting to change how I see myself now though.
When you start to truly love yourself others will love you too.