So what does depression look like? The simple answer is, it doesn’t look like anything. In my experience some of the most outwardly happy people are the most depressed. You know, the ones that are always smiling and joking, making everyone else laugh. If you ask a depressed person if they are okay, they will always answer very quickly, yes, but if you ask them if they are really okay you may get a different answer altogether. 1 in 4 adults in the UK will experience a mental health problem each year.
Take a look at some of the famous people that have committed suicide over the years. Actually do a Google search. I was shocked at the number. Famous actors and actresses. Musicians and film stars. Athletes and politicians. The list is shockingly long.
If you look at the picture attached to the blog, you will notice everyone is smiling. Obviously a picture is only a brief snapshot of a person’s life, but on the outside most everything you could dream of. There is a video online of Chester Bennington (Linkin Park frontman). It was taken just 36 hours before he killed himself. In the video he appears happy playing with his children, trying to guess jelly bean flavours. You can never tell what is going on inside a person’s head. You will only be should what people want you to see.
The sad truth is it doesn’t matter if you are a multi millionaire living a lavish lifestyle in a mansion or penniless and living on the streets, you can suffer from depression. Having fortunate and fame makes no difference.
Depression needn’t be caused by a massive traumatic event, it can be the build up of several smaller life events over the cause of several years. Sometimes there maybe no obvious cause at all.
The single thing that has helped me the most over the years is talking about my depression to trusted friends and professionals. Holding emotions inside eats away at you, it can be a downward spiral that is hard to break free from.
If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to people face to face, talk on the phone. If you want to speak to someone for free who won’t judge you or put a time limit on your call, I strongly recommend calling the samaritans. I always assumed they were there to talk you down from a bridge or a times of real crisis, this is not the case. They are there for any problem or to talk about anything that is worrying you or bringing you down.
Don’t suffer in silence. Don’t suffer alone. Don’t leave it to late.