It doesn’t matter how much good you do in your life time. You can be the most caring loving selfless person on the planet. You can literally give all your time and attention to others forsaking yourself and your own needs. The simple truth is, you won’t be remembered for any of that. Oh no, you will only be remembered for the wrong you did, no matter what. This is only natural and not a problem in itself if you are in a good place mentally, you can brush it off and move on.
When you get spoken to in a negative way, it deflates you and can leave you feeling worthless. Having mental health problems and low self esteem makes every negative comment and remark ten times worse. It’s the only part of the day you remember. It eats you away. It knocks your confidence.
You can go to work and work your arse off all day long, but get pulled up for the one thing that you didn’t do. You can spend your day tiding the house but be criticised for the one thing that you forgot to do.You can be out driving somewhere that you have never been before and get your passengers there safely, but be remembered for the one wrong turn you took.
It’s a bit like watching the news. You never hear of any good going on in the world, only the bad stuff.
So how to change that and stop negativity from causing anxiety and self doubt ? Well, it takes some time to do. You have to adjust your ways of thinking. If someone is putting you down it’s because a part of them is insecure (unless you’ve really fucked up of course). Start by talking kindly to yourself and slowly you will learn to let go of the criticism. Relax. Remind yourself that you are good enough. Learn to love yourself .
Learning to love yourself is the single most important thing you can do in life. You are the only person always guaranteed to be in your life forever.
You’ve got this. Stay strong!!